In this article, using methaphoric language of fairy tales, some problematic knots, characterizing important steps of the relational therapist training, are identified and discussed: the family mandate, the systemic thought, the objectivity in brackets, the personal training, the request reconversion, the therapeutic act, the emotional education, resonance and syntony. In order to follow Calvino’s directions, a very important italian expert of fairy tales, some basic precepts about therapeutic and training way are pointed out. Keys word: training ways, therapist’ growth, therapeutic ways