There is a dialogue of me and you that we all feel as indispensable to protect our psychological integrity and that is related to our internal dialogue and to our verbal self, as Stern called it. This is a more mature organization of personality that allows us to see ourselves in certain behaviours and disavow ourselves in other ones, creating what we call free will. Consciousness is born at primary level with the emergence of the hallucinated presence described by Edelmann for vertebrate animals as a recalled present. When verbal symbols take the place of the direct evocation of primary scenes we move away from lived experience and risk alienation, but at the same time we can access a higher form of integration.
Keywords: Relation, relational dance, Edelman, birth of consciousness, primary consciousness, superior consciousness