From emotions to meaning: Romantic love and sexuality integrated and directed according to values

Titolo Rivista MODELLI DELLA MENTE
Autori/Curatori Emiliano Lambiase, Tonino Cantelmi
Anno di pubblicazione 2021 Fascicolo 2020/1 Lingua Inglese
Numero pagine 31 P. 41-71 Dimensione file 0 KB
DOI 10.3280/mdm1-2020oa10909
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In order to understand the transition from a life driven by emotions and desires (with particular attention to sexual ones) to a life driven by projects and values, we will use the frameworks of interpersonal motivational systems (IMSs), of which the sexuality is part, and of metacognitive functioning that allows for emotional knowledge, understanding and regulation. We will provide a central role to consciousness, as a uniquely human quality, which allows the development of motivations and intentions not otherwise replicable in the rest of the animal world and which permits us to guide our behaviors by choosing which motivational system to support, contain or manage and, above all, why.

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Emiliano Lambiase, Tonino Cantelmi, From emotions to meaning: Romantic love and sexuality integrated and directed according to values in "MODELLI DELLA MENTE" 1/2020, pp 41-71, DOI: 10.3280/mdm1-2020oa10909