The Author highlights how knowledge, openness and mutual awareness through dialogue are required for a real understanding of the Afghans and Afghan values. And these things are what is lacking in the foreigners involved in the country. Diplomats, soldiers, officials, doctors and volunteers some to Afghanistan thinking they can solve its problems and quickly return home to a pay rise and better career prospects. By contrast, the Author cites the examples of people who have come to know the Afghan soul. Foremost among them is Alberto Cairo, distinguished by his work on the ground and the books in which he tells of his relationship with everyday life and Afghan identity. The Author concludes with a first-hand account of his own experience, centred on an encounter with a melon-seller called Abdullah, with whom he spends several hours sipping tea and talking of everyday life and politics, starting with president Karzai.
Keywords: Vita quotidiana afgana, dialogo con gli afgani, disinteresse e interesse degli stranieri per gli afgani