The couples work is promoted by the respect of some steps at the stage of initial consultation which mark listening to the demand, sharing gathered information, convocation, therapeutic contract. What we initially have to treat is often each partner‘s individual sufferance, the grief of his/her betrayed expectations and the hope his/her position will be acknowledged as "the right one". We activate to deal with the specific relationship they have built together along the years where each one is now suffering. The attention focused on the building of the context, based on the creation of a "safe" space for listening and equal proximity to each partner, becomes necessary to build a shared therapeutic demand which can be answered by the team.
Keywords: Couple therapy; engagement techniques; therapeutic demand; therapeutic contract; context; safe space