As systemic practitioners we try to produce validity from within (Maturana, 1998); we look for coherent explanations compatible with the person, his/her culture and the community h/she lives in. We pay more attention to irregularities rather than rules, to what appears to be discontinuous rather than predictable, and to singularities more than what is universal. To be systemic means also to substitute the notion of truth with trust and to be able to establish a trustworthy relationship we need to make ourselves vulnerable, respect the other and think of them as continuously evolving. These notions will be applied to the concept of narcissistic personality.
Keywords: Extraordinariness; irreverence; dance; collusion; relational knots; evolution