In this article the authors present their considerations on the relationship between parents and child and its evolvement. They explore the deep dynamics that lead the parents of the latest generation to seek psychotherapist support for the symptoms of their child. In particular, the deep effect of a parents’ narcissistic scenario is evaluated. Parents’ narcissism is composed by projections and dissociations in the relationship with the child, leading to a symptomatology during the developmental phase of the child. In this article the authors present two clinical cases. The first case explores the dynamics of a couple who seeks psychotherapy support for their eight-year-old son. The child shows emotional and behavioural discomfort in conjunction with constipation and encopresis. The second case, instead, deals with a request from parents for a psychological support for their eldest son (fifteen years old), who shows upset behaviour as well as a conflictual relationship with his parents and younger sister (eleven years old). In both cases the family members appear with a deep narcissistic vulnerability, which paves the way to a long-term consultation to obtain the construction of a dedicated setting for each of them. The psychotherapy approach put in place for these cases has the purpose of building a space, firstly mental and then real, to support and promote a more balanced development of the teenagers who initially appear in a blocked and suspended position.
Keywords: Narcissism; parenthood; identity; developmental phase; symptoms; psychotherapy.