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Sexual fantasy, unconscious phantasy, and the dynamics of attachment
Journal Title: INTERAZIONI 
Author/s: Christopher Clulow 
Year:  2021 Issue: Language: Italian 
Pages:  18 Pg. 66-83 FullText PDF:  192 KB
DOI:  10.3280/INT2021-002005
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This article explores sexual fantasy as an articulation of unconscious phantasy in couple relationships. Drawing on patterns of attachment and attending to "pretend" and "psychic equiv-alence" states of mind, it considers the potential of partners to combine in enacting shared un-conscious phantasy through fantasy-driven sexual encounters. Observations about different forms of narcissistic object relating are made in this context, and some implications for couple therapists suggested.
Keywords: sexual fantasy, shared unconscious phantasy, attachment in couples, narcissistic object relating, couple psychotherapy.

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Christopher Clulow, Sexual fantasy, unconscious phantasy, and the dynamics of attachment in "INTERAZIONI" 2/2021, pp. 66-83, DOI:10.3280/INT2021-002005


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