The polyamory relationships: A phenomenon analysis

Author/s Antonello Deriu, Paolo Antonelli, Davide Dèttore
Publishing Year 2016 Issue 2016/1
Language Italian Pages 20 P. 51-70 File size 262 KB
DOI 10.3280/RSC2016-001003
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Polyamory (loving many) is an alternative not monogamous relationship in a climate of consensus, responsibility and transparency. Through the analysis of academic literature, combined with papers by polyamorous activists, we tried to analyze this phenomenon. It was possible to explore the development and spread of a true culture and the values within these relationships: relational agreements, consent, love, commitment, loyalty and compersion. Since these reports are configured as multi-partner relationships, we have analyzed the various configurations that partners can take (oper relations and marriages, polyfidelity, not religious polygamy, triads, asexual and solo-poly), comparing the phenomenon of swingers and relational anarchists. Finally, we analyzed the problems within these relationships. Our main purpose is to try to implement a through analysis of the phenomenon, a base for future research.

Keywords: Polyamory, relationship, non-monogamy, love, romantic attraction, consensual

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Antonello Deriu, Paolo Antonelli, Davide Dèttore, Le relazioni poliamorose: un’analisi del fenomeno in "RIVISTA DI SESSUOLOGIA CLINICA" 1/2016, pp 51-70, DOI: 10.3280/RSC2016-001003