Therapy in stuck divorces

Author/s Anna Mascellani
Publishing Year 2021 Issue 2020/124
Language Italian Pages 26 P. 117-142 File size 126 KB
DOI 10.3280/TF2020-124007
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This paper focuses on the increasing number of situations of blocked divorce, in which the persistence over time of a high level of conflict in the couple, often many years after the physical separation, prevents the natural transformation of the marital bond and, consequently, the development of all family ties. But this hostility is nothing more than the only way that the partners have to avoid facing the pain of the wound inflicted by the divorce. If the therapist has the courage to connect directly to that suffering from the first session, the chances of helping the couple restart in the grieving process and automatically regain parental competence are greatly increased.

Keywords: Couple, divorce, conflict, parenting, loss, deadlock.

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Anna Mascellani, La terapia del divorzio bloccato in "TERAPIA FAMILIARE" 124/2020, pp 117-142, DOI: 10.3280/TF2020-124007